The Truth About Being a Stay-at-Home Working Mom

Obsessed with this lace up top (UNDER $100)



If there’s anything I’ve learned while being a stay-at-home, working mom, it’s the perspective that nobody can do it all and there’s no such thing as the perfect mom or perfect family. The other day I was having this conversation with someone, and we were talking about working and kids and they were like, “But you have it so easy. You can just work from home, stay in your pajamas, and be with your kids.” I laughed for a second because I’ve heard that so many times! I love being with the kids but in no way is it easy. Being a mom isn’t easy, running a business isn’t easy, but the good always far outweighs the hard!

10 truths about working from home as a mom:

  • No, you don’t have time to get ready every day. While I’m getting ready in the morning, Beckam will pull on my shirt every two minutes asking for a snack, his blanket, play-dough, a car. No 2 minutes go by uninterrupted so taking 10 minutes to do your makeup and hair might turn into an hour if it gets done at all. 😛 It might be a few days before I get the chance to wash my hair or put on makeup, so I try to focus on the bigger picture and spending time doing the little things that will yield the longest lasting results. Spending 15 minutes with a good face or eye mask, getting lash extensions that last weeks so it looks like I have make up on – all those can do wonders making up for a solid no-makeup week. I’m also really picky about my hair care routine to keep my hair healthy and strong. The Nexxus Emergencee system is my favorite. It rebuilds and repairs your hair’s protein with elastin protein and collagen so it’s more resilient and stronger.
  • Sunrise is your alarm clock. Because I’m trying to make the most of the time I do have with the kids, I try to get most of my work done while they are asleep. That means my alarm usually goes off at 5-6am!
  • The guilt – I go back and forth between feeling like I’m working too much and missing out on moments with the family or not working enough and falling behind on deadlines. I realized… I don’t think there’s a right answer either way! The most important thing you can do is make the most of the time you spend either way. That means when I am with the kids, I make sure it’s meaningful and that they get 100% of my attention. Every once in a while I catch myself multitasking, trying to do both at once, and find myself getting annoyed because then nothing gets done and nobody wins. I started getting a babysitter and knocking out as much work as I could during those few hours a week so I could be more present with the kids during the time I do have with them and it has made such a difference! Sometimes quality makes up for what you lack in quantity.
  • You perfect your go-to hairstyle really fast. My hair is in a messy bun 75% of the time because I don’t have time to get ready. (Dry shampoo you are my lifesaver!) I also always use the Nexxus nourishing hair oil for my ends. Infused with babassu and marula oils, this product is perfect when you are in a rush and need help hydrating your ends.
  • Joggers don’t have to look like pajamas! Yes, one of the perks of working from home is getting to wear whatever you want. You can still get away with comfy clothes while still being chic. A fitted cropped jogger with a lace-up sweater is just as cozy as pajamas but still looks like you put effort into getting ready for the day.
  • You never get that “off-the-clock” feeling. Working from home means, by default,  you take your work home with you.  It takes a lot of practice to be able to turn it off sometimes. You have to set aside specific times when you can turn it off so you can still spend time with the your family and still have a life too!
  • Invest in a clean house! When by house is clean I’m a lot more productive. We have someone who helps lean a couple times a month and it makes such a difference! Whether you have someone every week, once a month, or just spend a few hours cleaning instead of watching TV, it’s so much better when things are fresh and clean! It doesn’t last long at our house, somehow the kids can a a mess in 2 minutes, but the few minutes it is are heaven! Am I right??
  • It’s a roller coaster of emotions. The best days are the best and worst days are REALLY hard. On those unicorn, amazing type of days: work seems to run smoothly, the kids are so cute and extra smiley and snuggly – it’s perfect! And then on the rough days, it’s the absolute worst: The kids are melting down like crazy, something is awry at work, it’s that time of month, I’m moody and grumpy – I want to break. I’ve come to realize that kids really do feed off your emotions. When you’re having those days, find a family member to help out for a hour, or turn on their favorite show so you can get 15 minutes of quiet and just go and meditate. I literally will walk away somewhere quiet and take 10 deep breaths and try to think of what I’m thankful for so I can try and change my attitude. There’s always something positive to focus on even when it doesn’t feel like it.
  • You don’t have to sacrifice your style. Whether you are working from home or not, no mom should have to comprise her closet! I wasn’t about to give up my heels just because I had a baby. Of course I wear my fair share of sneakers but it’s all about balance! Putting an effort into your wardrobe and appearance shouldn’t be something you do just for your S/O, the office, or when you’re going out into public – if anything I think it does more for your own sanity!
  • You catch some of the best moments! There are always hard days in mom-land but one of the things I love most about working from home is you also catch some of the best little milestones and mementos. Through the chaos it makes it all worth it!

Find what works for you and your family! Social media can be a double-edged sword and make you think it’s easy, but a lot of times we don’t see people’s struggles. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else! Whether you work full time in the office, stay at home with the kids full time, or are somewhere in between, it’s all about making the most of your time in whatever you are doing and enjoying moments along the way.

XX, Christine

*In collaboration with Nexxus New York Hair Salon.

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  1. Cassandra Ann

    What I love about you and your blog is that you are so humble (even through all of your success). I keep telling people that my goal for next year and the years to come, is to get to a place of your following and loyalty within readers. Thank you for sharing this! Although I don’t have any kids (yet), I will refer back to this as my blog and family grows.

    XO – CA

    West Coast Blogger

    Brit + Co Contributor

  2. Michelle Johnson

    Terrific post! I am definitely guilty of comparing my life to someone else’s and thinking they have it perfect and then it just really depresses me and ruins my mood! People never really put the bad times in photos–only the good so we have no idea what is really going on in someone’s life!

  3. Amber Bradford

    Love your ability to be candid and honest. It’s important to recognize the guilt but also realize that being a mom isn’t complete compromise. Your needs and wants as a woman are important and vital to be the best mom you can be!

  4. Karin

    sorry – but i thought this was going to be an inspiring post, then after bullet point #1 I realized it was a sponsored post.

  5. SEwards

    Omg thank you for this incredibly honest blog, as I read more and more I began to cry! Thank you for being an honest mother!

  6. Wendy Blair

    Such a great post! I often feel guilty about working full time, but I also love that I get some adult time to flex my brain! I have the utmost respect for moms that stay at home full time (“working” or not) as I’m pretty sure I couldn’t do it! You are pretty much my favorite blogger ever because you share some of the not so perfect times with us and the reality is so much better than fantasy! Thanks for being such an inspiration!

  7. M.

    I enjoyed reading this! This is my first time visiting your blog but I’ll definitely be back. Loved your outfit, especially the laced top.

  8. Steal4Style

    In love with this sweatshirt!! You look gorgeous in your go-to outfit. Have a nice day!

  9. Tess Felber

    Such a great post!! Although I’m not a mom yet I can see how each one of these happens, no one has the perfect situation but you sound like you’re ruling at being a mom!
    xx Tess | Sequins are the New Black

  10. Rachel Francis

    Hi! I really enjoyed this post. I can relate to this so much. I also work from home and have 2 young children and often hear “must be nice to sit around.” It can be frustrating to hear, but I try not to let it get to me. I focus on what is truly important. Thank you for sharing…very inspirational!

  11. Teresa Molano

    I love this! You have a great attitude and I can so relate to trying to keep things in perspective! There’s so much to be grateful for and we all want to do our best in every facet of our lives, but life is busy! So it’s challenging! I also try to be present and give my daughter as much quality time as possible but I work tons so it takes effort for sure. The most worthwhile effort! I think it’s an invaluable lesson to show our kids that we can work hard, be the best mom we can be, and still try to be our best self, inside and out!

  12. Whit

    Love the way you keep it real! Family life is so blessed but there are those moments. You have inspired me to dress things up a bit and it makes a difference
    Xo stay at home mom

  13. Liz

    I am new to your blog (thanks Pinterest!). How refreshing to read your take on this — I also work part time from home.

    What I’ve learned about motherhood is that each working/stay at home scenario comes with its own unique set of challenges and different “guilt”! On our scenario, like you stated, every day is different. Sometimes the work/kids balance is perfect and sometimes it shits one way or another, but all in all I consider myself lucky to have the best of both worlds!

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